a bit about being an introvert


People tend to think that introvert people are just extremely shy but that’s not the case. Introverts aren’t shy, in reality we can be outgoing, friendly and all of those things that people normally associate with extroverts; we just need time to charge up before socialising and then recharge afterwards with silence, space and solitude.

Being around people is extremely draining for an introverts and we need time after interactions particularly ones where we’re in a large group of people and are expected to socialise we’ll need time to recover and recharge afterwards. Sometimes it’s just a nap or sitting for a while reading a book but the bigger the group or social interaction required the longer the recovery time.

How to handle or care for introverts:

Respect their need for privacy
Never embarrass them in public
Let them observe first in new situations
Give them time to think, don’t demand instant answers
Don’t interrupt them
Give them advance notice of expected changes in their lives
Give them at least 15 minutes warnings to finish whatever they are doing
Reprimand them privately
Teach them new skills provately
Enable them to find one best friend who has similar interests and anbilities
Don’t push them to make lots of friends
Respect heir introversaion, don’t try remake them into extroverts

I guess it isn’t always easy spotting an introvert because you can’t exactly see the hamster ball like bubble we keep ourselves in and because we do like to socialise even though it isn’t easy and it’s draining, some people really are just shy but for the most part people can be divided into the two categories. Not sure how to suggest noticing an introvert, probably that one person who tends to be quieter at functions and happy to be in their own company even when surrounded by tons of people.

Personally I’ve very lucky that the people I choose to socialise with are understanding and don’t push for conversations and let me join in as I feel comfortable to. The Person also knows that being social drains me and always cuts out a bit of quiet time after we’ve been out or just in general sometimes which is so much appreciated.



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